Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Play!! and updated goals

I am too wrapped up most days in my own self imposed deadlines and expectations of a checked off item on a made up to do list.  This is crazy considering I do contract work here and there and mostly have all the time in the world to do whatever strikes my fancy.

  Some things are mandatory like doing homework with Jupiter.  We have homework from his Homestead program and the homework is to play with him.  Why do I find this so hard?  Its play...
The goal of this play is to keep his attention on a shared activity for the longest amount of time possible.  Usually this is about 5-8 minutes.  We try and get him to communicate using his voice or voice output device (his "talker").  I am proud to say that after reading the below mentioned article I played with him.  It was 5 minutes and 8 seconds of playing a fishing game.  It was fun and I was engrossed in this simple game!

The hubby posted this link today from the Huffington Post. I highly recommended you read it!  It is not about running or barefoot running although I find both of those to be fun.  The article talks about adults having lost touch with playing and why playing makes us better people.
  With barefoot running I am lucky that it is fun whether I want it to be or not. Many times I still find myself focused  on a destination instead of the journey and yet the feedback from my feet always pulls me back to the present moment and why I believe that I have yet to have a crappy barefoot run.  Don't get me wrong there have been times when I gave myself nasty blisters from doing too much too soon or I didn't prepare well but I , so far, have always been able to look back on my most recent run and say matter of factly that it was fun.  Not everything in life is like barefoot running though.  I have to actively stop being so dang adultish often.

  I can feel this intuitively about myself, this idea that I have lost touch with my inner kid.  Part of the problem is winter and how confined to indoor activities we are and we are on a stricter schedule with Jupiters time in therapy.   I do know that I need and appreciate my limitations and if I am not happy its because of choices that I am making.  
Today I colored a Valentine with my almost 5 year old spawn, Milo.  My teddy bear holding a heart was the best on the window and I am not too proud to admit it.  Yes the rest were probably colored by folks much younger and less experienced in Crayon technique but I do know how to add depth and shade with a crayon and my bear was cute.  The best part was where it says "To: Milo, Love: Mama".

  I mentioned goals.  One of my goals was to connect with my 11 year old spawn.  I think that I know how to do that.  We need to have  shared activity.  So I am going to learn how to play Ukulele.  He taught himself how to play and has been trying to teach me for a while and I always have something else to do.  If this post is disjointed its because I am typing like a mad woman as he is waiting for me to finish so we can start!  
He has a brand new hand drum set with a set of Congas and Bongos so the Uke is freed up for now for me to practice on.  We love Jack Johnson, Bob Marley, Ziggy Marley, and so many more so music will bring us together.  Thats the plan anyways.


My running goals are too restrictive.  I am pretty far behind on my goal to hit 1500 miles this year. I know its only the first 3 weeks of the year but I don't feel like it and am having some health issues that I need to figure out. I might make it to 1500 and might not.  My bottom line goal is to get to 1200 for the year.  I will not force myself to run just to hit that goal.  I will force myself out that door when I know that a run will do me good even if I don't feel like it but I don't want to feel like I have to do something.  I don't want to risk it not being fun anymore.

Happy running, happy music making, happy playing to you!!

19 comments:

Bourbonfeet said...

Mileage goals are silly! I've had them in the past and still have them now (i don't listen to myself) Anyway it should ALWAYS be about the quality of the experience not the amount you do it (but the more you do something the more you have a chance of achieving awesomeness) Keep it fun and keep inspiring people like me. Thankxs :)

AM-GoalsfortheWeek said...

hi there!
too cool! the hubs and lil' 11yr old ukelele player;-)

also...i'm sad but my GFTW website was nabbed by a computer in my absense of renewing my domain name. wah!!

so please, please, find me now at www.goals4theweek.com


HUGS!

The Green Girl said...

Have fun reuniting with your inner child!

zapmamak said...

(sheepishly stepping on my soap box) I am SUCH an advocate for PLAY! Especially for our young children who seem to be getting more and more over-scheduled with each generation.

Letting our kids play on their own without adult interference helps them learn to organize, lead, master, imagine and create. Some of the very attributes we will want them to have when they're adults themselves.

And maybe if we allow them lots of room to play as children, they won't become workaholics who always need to be "productive", but instead will become inspired, creative and independent thinkers of tomorrow. :-)

Claire said...

A common interest is key when those boys get a certain age. The only time I don't want to kill V is when we're running together...he's almost 15.

Good luck learning the Ukulele..how cool is that?

misszippy said...

You're so right about play! And I'm guilty of not doing enough of it with my kids, I admit. I love the idea of finding something to connect with each of them on...

Nikki Kendall said...

I love this post! It is refrshing to read from not only a woman, but a mom, who is a runner!

Jen said...

A shared activity is the sure way to connect with a child. I think it's great that you found one. And I completely agree with your thoughts on playing. Add to that laughing. I find myself wrapped up in what needs to be done and forget that there is always time to laugh. Children have so much to teach us.
Great post!

Nikki Kendall said...

A fun litte note...I actually blogged about you today!

http://nikkiisamomonamission.blogspot.com/

Black Knight said...

My wife is an elementary school teacher and she likes her job a lot. I often listen her discussions about the shared activity, she makes it at school and at home with our grandson.
I never planned a mileage goal, I don't know why....

zapmamak said...

Oh... and allowing our kids to show us their world when we play with them is so much fun! And music! The ukulele and Jack Johnson... Beautiful.

Emz said...

inner child. i. love. this.

childhood is/was the best ever.

I'm all for a re-visiting. ;)

great post.

Jess @ Blonde Ponytail said...

I love Jack J too!

I wanted to let you know that I posted about NUUN and included it in a giveaway! ;)

funderson said...

goals schmoals...especially in winter!

Robin said...

Hi Angie!
I am doing my "challenge" for the week from the Tall Mom 1,000+++ club and decided to try to connect with the other Iowans on the sheet. I am a runner (and many other things) in Iowa City. My husband does ABA work here at the UI and works in the Autism field -- the world is small! I am intrigued by the barefoot running movement...perhaps I'll see you at an Iowa run soon! - Robin

Sabrina Hayes said...

Hi! I have been follwing you for some time and I just wanted to let you know that I am in the midst of reading "Born to Run" and am enjoying it immensely. The Tarahumra are amazing.

I have just ordered a pair of Vibrams. I am not positive that barefoot running is for me but I am determined to give it try.

Thank you for the inspiration.

Adam said...

I really liked this one. I think that I don't play NEARLY enough. Is always "work, dad, work, run, pay bills". Bleh!

Amanda@runninghood said...

I think we all need to remember to get in touch with our inner child much more often! Good for you! And yay for finding ways to bond with your son! ;)

Greta said...

Good reminder to me about playing with my kids. I especially like your comment about how how we shouldn't keep our eyes on the destination instead of enjoying the journey. Thanks Angie!

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